Let’s talk about it. I know I’m not the only one who has had to shrink just to survive in rooms full of people who get intimidated by self-love.
Do I need to be more humble? Or do you need to stop watching me so hard and start focusing on your own growth?
Because every time I show up for myself, every time I speak life into my own being, every time I claim my power and walk in it without apology, suddenly I’m too much. Suddenly, I’m arrogant. And just like that, it becomes time for a bunch of insecure folks to try to humble me.
Let’s be clear. Confidence is not arrogance. It is a result of healing. It comes from doing the inner work. It is the fruit of self-awareness, discipline, and devotion to becoming better. If that triggers you, that is a mirror. It is not a reason to project your unhealed energy onto me or anyone else.
Why is it that me loving and affirming myself offends you?
Why does me standing in my light make you want to see me dim it just so you can feel comfortable?
Here is the truth you might not want to admit. It is not about me. It is about how you feel about you.
And instead of dealing with that, some folks choose the path of gossip, sabotage, passive-aggressive comments, and weird energy. That is spiritual warfare in disguise. That is word curses and black magic. Not in some fantasy sense, but in the real-world form of manipulation, envy, and destruction masked as concern.
You do not want a confident person in your presence. Not because they are harming you, but because they remind you of everything you have neglected in yourself.
And when I do not want to build with you, connect with you, or be in community with that energy, suddenly I am the problem?
Let me say this with love and clarity.
Even if I shrink myself, water myself down, or pretend to be less than I am, it still will not help you grow. Because growth does not come from watching someone else tone themselves down. It comes from being real enough with yourself to ask, what am I running from within me?
So no. I will not get on your level.
I have worked too hard to rise above the spaces that needed me small in order to feel big.
And I have learned that false humility is just another form of self-abandonment.
To those who feel threatened by confidence, it is time to stop attacking what you do not understand and start doing the soul work you have been avoiding.
Because real growth requires honesty, not hate.
Healing, not hierarchy.
And most of all, accountability.
If you cannot handle someone else’s light, it is time to stop trying to dim it.
Start cultivating your own.