I don’t do tit for tat

Tit for tat people are exhausting. Like seriously — where does that even come from? Kindergarten? Playground vibes? Because that’s exactly what it feels like.

You didn’t text me, so I’m not texting you.
You didn’t invite me, so I’m not inviting you.
You didn’t like my post, so I’m not liking yours.
Grown folks playing emotional tag.

I’m not here for it.

There’s petty — and then there’s tit for tat. And honestly, tit for tat is pettiness with too much time on its hands.

It’s not rooted in maturity. It’s not rooted in healing. It’s rooted in score-keeping, passive aggression, and ego. Real connection doesn’t need to be tracked like a competition. Real relationships flow with give and take, without constantly looking over your shoulder to make sure the scales are balanced.

If you’re constantly measuring how much you’re doing versus how much you’re receiving, you’re not connecting — you’re comparing. That’s not peace. That’s performance.

I’m not playing tit for tat with anybody. I’m not keeping receipts. If I do something for you, it’s because I wanted to. If I don’t, trust it’s not out of spite. And if you’re doing things just to get a reaction, we’re not in alignment — we’re in opposition.

And that’s not the type of energy I invite into my space.

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Your energy is sacred.
Let folks grow up and graduate from tit for tat behavior. You don’t need to prove your peace by lowering your frequency.